We haven't spoken in over fifteen years (wow, where did the time go?).
Things didn't end...well.
When we first met, we were fresh out of college and not sure what was next. We acted in a few local plays (drama nerd alert!) and saw a ton of movies together.We also spent late nights talking about anything and everything.
Real friends don't let friends Google ex-friends. Or something.
As I scanned the Google search results on my "frenemy", the imp on my left shoulder hoped I'd find something negative. What can I say? I'm only human.
Alas, it was not to be.
Not because my searching skills weren't up to snuff (please--I'm a librarian), but because he doesn't exist on social media (at least, not under his real name). Not even on LinkedIn.
He may as well have been a ghost.
The search result I did find displayed his full name, address, age, and phone number. Apart from that, there was nothing.
At first I was, well, stunned. But, perhaps I shouldn't have been. According to the Pew Research Internet Project, "As of January 2014, 74% of online adults [in the U.S.] use social networking sites." This means that 79 million Americans do not use social media. Not to mention, "15% of American adults do not use the internet at all, and another 9% of adults use the internet but not at home."
The more I thought about it, the more I began to envy his lack of social media detritus (under his real name, anyway).
Just think of:
- All the marketing data that has not been harvested from his (non-existent) Facebook account, as well as web searches conducted while still logged into Facebook.
- All the Google searches that are not tracked and saved in a server somewhere.
- All of the Gmails that have not been scanned in order to optimize ads.
Assuming he doesn't have a smartphone, or social media profiles under a different name, he's enjoying a level of privacy that's nearly extinct. A level of privacy that hasn't been normal since the early part of the first Clinton administration.
In fact, he might not exist on any server at all.
Google and Privacy (An Oxymoron?)
Some might argue that my ex-friend is missing out by opting out of social media (if, in fact, he is). What about job opportunities on LinkedIn? Or re-connecting with old high school buddies on Facebook? How on earth does he tweet about his favorite TV shows?
I Googled him because I wanted to see what he was up to--but I didn't want to, you know, interact with him. Since this isn't possible right now, he'll remain a mystery.
And after so many years, after all, what is there left to say?
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